Deep End of the Ocean, The – DivX Version (Normal Quality), DVD (Good Quality), PDA Version, iPod/iPhone Version
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IMDB rating: 5.80 Plot: The Deep End of The Ocean is a film about a family’s reaction when Ben, the youngest son is kidnapped and then found ten years later, living in the same town. |
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Actors: Williams Treat,Jackson Jonathan,Buck Cory,Merriman Ryan,McGrady Michael,McElroy Michael,Musante Tony,Kapelos John,Roselius John,Drama,
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Hello,
Although I have followed this website sporatically, this is my very first post here. I was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at 14. For those that do not know, AS is a high-functioning form of autism. We have the intellect but social skills are another matter.
I’m rather confused, hurt, and I need feedback from like minded individuals. I had a close friendship with a neurotypical (those without AS) named Shannon for 8 years. She took an interest in me early, and we became friends. Although I did not have any romantic feelings for her, I cared for her like no one else I knew. She had romantic feelings for me at one time, because she asked me out. I turned her down, and her feelings subsided into more of a brother-sister relationship.
I told her about AS, and she stated that now she knows why I turn a simple open-ended question into a 10-minute lecture, or why I don’t get hints and whatnot. I was very open with her, and she accepted it and gave me encouragement. We exchanged e-mails quite extensively. She was a customer at my store; that is how we met. I have always had a fragile mind full of self-doubt. I asked her if it was alright if I sent her e-mails to let me get my frustrations out if I needed to. She said yes, and she’d be there for me anytime. I said she could do the same to me, and she did that once. She called me All-Star, her FFL, she said she cared for me like a brother, etc. She was the friend I trusted the most.
Then last week Wednesday, I received an e-mail stating that our friendship was over. Her reasoning is that our lifestyles are no longer similar and I am too close to her. I felt that was a lie because she never said anything that would cause me to believe otherwise in the past. I said what? Why? What am I doing wrong? The next day, she said I did nothing wrong but she was being selfish and letting me go. I broke down in tears in my empty classroom after she said that. I e-mailed her back saying that I cannot think logically right now, so I’ll send my goodbye e-mail during the weekend. I did, and in it I asked her to really think this through. This entire process came out of leftfield – like she decided that out of the blue. I really wanted to think that over critically because she will never have a more loyal friend than myself, that I never took advantage of her sexually or financially, that I was always there for her. She replied back that I deserved closure, that she thought about it for a few months but acted like she was my friend on the surface because I do not have many friends, that I do have my self-doubts, etc. She said that I was a true friend but she was not, and that she needed space, I was too clingy, I’d always talk about our friendship but not "let’s just be friends", and that she was tired of the doubting. I told her time after time that if she got sick of any of that to tell me. I would back off, I would and I could. Before that e-mail she said that was never a problem, but it was because she was thinking about it for awhile. I just wish she told me. She used my AS against me and abandoned me. I understand her frustrations, but she knows I do not pick up on hints. I wish she told me before this. I am hurt deeper than the bottom of the Pacific Ocean.
I cried and cried and cried for days. I only have three friends because – well, I just cannot make friends. Those with AS or anyone on the autism spectrum have an incredibly difficult time making and keeping friends. We do not understand dynamics such as non-verbal communication, the differences in tone – thus it is hard to understand whether someone is being serious or whether they are joking, sarcasm, and so on. We have anxiety attacks from time-to-time since there is too much sensory input. Thus, it is difficult for us to interact normally in the real world.
I try, I try, I try, and when I find someone I put everything I have into that relationship only to get hurt.
I am going through a myriad of stress right now because I am student teaching full-time, and also working on the weekends. My lesson plans are all new, my assignments are all new, everything is all new so I spend 50-55 hours a week working on school alone. Aspies are known for their clinginess and their absolute loyalty to friendships they establish. I clinged to Shannon because she was the one person I trusted most, and she stated that I could share my stresses with her. I did. When I had a problem I’d share them with Shannon. I felt close to her only to be ripped apart.
I am in a state of depression largely because of my school responsibilities because it is overwhelming, I only have a few friends and no time to hang out with them, and I eagerly cannot wait to move away from home. The pressures of the world have me seeking counseling that will combat my strains.
The whole point of this is, she is established in life and I am not. She has a career and I do not yet, though I will next year. The str
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